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When a Child is Born
by: Carmel Baird When your child is born, it is the most wonderful moment of your life. No one can explain that feeling fully, and when you first come home and that tiny bundle is wholly your responsibility, that is an awesome feeling. And that tiny bundle already has it's own mind and believe it or not, knows just what he or she wants and right there and then, without you realising it, sets about getting it. We can do courses for so many things, get degrees in many areas but have you noticed, there are no real courses or degrees in Parenting, the most important job you will do in your entire life. That's why there are many articles written about various areas of parenting from babes to teens. The experiences of others may just help with our own concerns about our children and how we are handling certain situations. These articles let us know we are not alone and we are not the only one to have a problem. I remember when my daughter was in her early teens, we suddenly has this once very happy, loving daughter, exploding, stomping, flaring up for no real apparent reason and calming down almost as fast. That was as long as we didn't say anything, just let the exploding, stomping, etc go on. I kept thinking, it must be something I was doing or not doing, then we received an invitation from her school to participate in a Personal Development Program. Not knowing just what was involved with this program we went along and found out it was for just this very thing that had been happpening with our daughter. and....we were not alone. It was a great program as we did it with our daughter and even though the highs and lows didn't go away, we knew we were not alone. I know I had holes in my tongue from biting on it, well not really, but I had to hold back on many things I would normally have said something about. By doing that, the moment would pass very quickly and my beautiful daughter would be back to her normal self. Her father called this time in her life the "galloping hormones". There is so much going on, they don't understand, their bodies are developing, they are not children anymore and they are not adults either. It's like a no man's land or no woman's land, time in their life, very difficult and if we don't understand at least some of what is going on, we can hinder more than help. These kids are growing up faster today than when my daughter was young. You know, we push and we shouldn't. From the start, we are waiting for the first word, first step etc etc etc then, I don't know about you but, when mine got to a certain age, I wanted to put a brick on their head to slow them down. The time was racing away and soon they would be all grown up. We only have them on loan, so we must look after them, they are precious. Our influence alone is for but a very short time. Unfortunately today, our influence time can be very limited. If you have to go back to work and leave your child in care, then while it's not your fault, your influence is only the time you had with your child before the "in care" time started. I was fortunate, while we didn't have everything that opened and shut in our home, we also didn't do without anything important, I was able to spend the first 5 years of my children's lives in the most important job I have ever done and that was caring for them, being a Mum and I wouldn't have missed it for anything. Once they started school, the outside influences came in, through teachers mainly. and....teachers are gospel, especially to a 5 year old. (don't get me wrong, I'm not putting down teachers, they are wonderful) .So I was very pleased to be able to have my influence, the values and guidance I felt was important in life, instilled in my chlidren from an early age, The time you are the sole carer of your chlid is the only time you have to teach them your values, what you hope for them and the type of person you hope for them to grow up to be. I started collecting these articles for Kids and Teens Parenting so other parents can feel they are not alone. I hope they will help you and if there is an area you would like some information on, please let us know and I will endeavour to find it for you. We will keep adding downloadable e-books as we find them, so even if it is 2am, you will be able to get help. Kids & Teens Parenting Articles Contact us Copyright © 2005-06 CTBaird
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